Unspoken Words: The Hidden Impact

Unspoken words are not always as profound or appealing as they might seem. Silence, at times, can inadvertently neglect the psychological, social, and economic needs of others. Reflecting on my experience at Avicenna Medical College and Hospital on Bedian Road, Lahore, I recall facing a challenging situation. Madam Gulfreen Zareen hesitated to issue my recruitment letter, primarily because she wanted to reserve the position for her niece, who was pursuing a degree in psychology. Throughout the recruitment process, I observed clear instances of favoritism, gaslighting, and undue pressure. While I could recognize and feel these injustices, I could not confront her directly.


We all possess an inner intuition—a kind of psychic bell—that guides our feelings. These feelings often stem from honesty but do not always represent the objective truth. For instance, to someone dealing with anxiety, this very reflection could be overwhelming or counterproductive, as anxiety often disconnects thoughts from present realities and anchors them in unfounded fears.


Expressing emotions and articulating how situations hurt us is crucial for mental well-being and is often referred to as emotional burnout. However, it’s not always possible or appropriate to voice every feeling. Circumstances, priorities, or social dynamics might demand silence, and sometimes, stepping back quietly becomes the only viable choice.


This silence, however, comes at a cost. It can deeply affect our emotional and mental health. That’s why I believe tonight that "what remains unsaid can often be ugly." Reflect on the unspoken aspects of your day—both yours and others’. You might uncover valuable insights or lessons for yourself.


Thank you for taking the time to read this.


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