Crying Is Not a Mental Problem — Not Crying Is

As a clinical psychologist, I often remind clients that crying is not a weakness; it is a biological and psychological regulation process. When we cry, the brain releases stress hormones through tears, helping the body restore balance. Emotional tears are different from reflex tears—they contain higher levels of stress-related chemicals such as cortisol and adrenocorticotropic hormone. In simple words, crying helps the nervous system calm down.


However, when someone stops crying altogether, it can be a sign of emotional suppression. People who have gone through prolonged stress, trauma, or environments where emotions were shamed often develop psychological defense mechanisms. The brain learns to “shut down” expression to avoid vulnerability. Over time, this emotional numbing may contribute to depression, anxiety, or psychosomatic symptoms such as headaches, chest tightness, and fatigue.


From a therapeutic point of view, not crying reflects a deeper disconnection between emotion and expression. The person might feel empty, unable to release pain even when deeply hurt. In such cases, the work of psychotherapy is to rebuild emotional safety—to teach the brain that expression is not dangerous but healing.


So, crying is not a mental illness; it is a human function. What needs attention is when tears no longer come, even when they should. Healing begins the moment one allows emotion to flow freely again, without guilt or fear.


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